yes. I assume I need to update my images for the changes to take effect? To be honest i am getting a bit confused. I followed the help suggestions to set up my preferences for a work flow to Lightroom.
but it is working now from spotlight to quick search to search to lightroom I assume from that my preferences are right
Yes, your preferences look good for working with Spotlight and being compatible with Adobe products. However, if you didn't need to use Spotlight then I wouldn't have recommended embedding IPTC into your RAW files, but it actually doesn't hurt.
As for updating your images, you could use the Update IPTC/XMP tool or you could just apply the IPTC Stationery Pad to some field you don't use and then later clear it. Both would update the metadata for your RAW files.
-Kirk