Stranger alert! I think the issue is with the OS. When I drag a file stored on a peripheral drive to the app and save it, the exif gets lost (sometimes). When I drag it to the desktop and then to the app, all seems well all the time(so far). I need to get a consistent behavior before I can or you can proceed. So its time to go deep into the storage units, thanks for the responses, sorry I opened this box.
ETA - Resolution, the other apps don't pickup up sidecar files, but do pick up embedded data. You recommend against embedding in metadata in RAW files, will you explain please because that appears to be what I have to do to use these apps.
Thanks